Tips for Teen Girls

Biggest mistake of my life: Dating him.

I met him the summer of 2010 at an non school related club, although I suppose Ive known him since 2008. We were buddies in an instant, We could tell each other anything. Well, You know how it goes, A guy and girl are friends for a while, and before long at least one of them falls in love. Thats exactly what happened with us. I fell first, then him. I kept it a secret until September, when he & I both ended up telling one of my best friends we liked each other. Different times, Different places on the same day. He emailed me, and we decided we were a couple. Biggest mistake of my life.
I held on through all the ups and downs he put me threw, including only talking to me once or twice a month. I only saw him once a month, so it wasn't like i saw him every day and he just ignored me. So many times I felt something telling me to Run! Get out of there! Its not safe! But i never listened. When my great uncle passed away, we grew closer than ever. He was someone i could cry to, someone to hold me when i hurt.
Over the summer, he told me he loved me. I thought he meant it. We spent the summer together, and oh how hard i fell for that boy!! I moved into his hometown, and we started school together in the fall. The first 1/3rd of the year was great. Two classes and lunch together, plus time before school to see each other. I was hooked. Then the second trimester started. He began drifting away, ever so slowly, until one day when he and a friend of his were talking about how he was going to dump me, while i was right behind them.
So we broke up, I was crushed, and over three months later, im still hurt. Then he began his whole "just friends" thing. I gave it all I had, but he gave none in return. So i ignored him, and he me. After a month of silence, heartbreak and anger, he tried to become friends again. So i listened, I tried again, but after a month or so, he stopped trying. Again. My first response was anger. Then silence and guilt. After a while I apologized, and he did his whole 'im a perfect little angel and i forgive you' thing. Again. Then he let me down again. Now I refuse to speak to him, Any glances he gets are glares, and I honestly want him out of my life.

Here's my advice. Follow it if you wish. -

1. Don't let yourself fall that hard, that fast without a way to catch yourself in case of emergency.
2. Is he does that 'just friends' thing, unless you think HE is willing to put in as much effort as you, tell him to get out of your life.
3. If something inside you tells you to run, do it. Don't look back.

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Katzgal